There are some things that maybe should be done only once. Some things can only be done one time. You can only lose your virginity one time. In days of yore there have probably been women and men who have pretended that, this particular event had happened more than one time. At least that is what I have heard.
You can see a place for the first time…. only once. My first trip to Europe happened only once. My first view of the Eiffel Tower happened one time. My first bowl of pasta in Rome I will never forget. My first glance at the Mediterranean happened one time.
There is the first time you are kissed. It happened to me in Hawaii when I was twelve going on thirteen. I remember that he was blond with blue eyes and he was from Canada. He was staying at the same resort. He was an only child of older, very rich parents. He was a French Canadian. I have had lots of crushes on several different men but as for love. Only three times, so far.
I have only been married once. I still have a “was-band”. We have been separated for a long time. We have come back together many times, at first, because we tried to give it a go once again. The second and third and forth time, it was due to the fact that my husband is the father of my two sons and it helped to have him around to help with the boys as well as the house and pets and all the little things men can do that I can not do. He could climb up on ladders to get rid of a wasp nests, to tell me what is the matter with my car’s engine, grilling things on the grill, getting rid of mice, and washing the dog after he has frightened a group of skunks that lived underneath our stairs in one of our houses.
My particular “was-band” is very clean and neat unlike some other husbands that I have heard about from my friends. He likes to vacuum and dust and clean out garages. So he does have his good points. He is sort of like the brother that turns up when he needs me to look after his pets or if his house that he was renting was sold out from under him and he needs a place to stay. I have a white leather chaise lounge that folds down into a bed for him. That is his bed, in my living room, when he needs a place to stay. Am I the better person of the two of us? OF COURSE I AM! Am I a saint? ABSOULETY I AM, NO DOUBT ABOUT IT!! I feed him too!!!
There are a few things that I would like to do again. There are a few things that I would like to do for the first time.
I would like to go on the Orient Express to Venice. I have always wanted to go on the Orient Express and I have always wanted to go to Venice. Both of these things would be for the first time. BTW I want to stay in a beautiful hotel in Venice and I want to have drinks at Harry’s Bar and I want to sit in the Piazza San Marco and just watch people go by.
When I was 20 years old I went on the S.S. France with a whole group of students who were going to college in Europe for their junior year abroad. It was a dream come true for me. I had always dreamt about going on a ship across the ocean to Europe. Why? I don’t know why? Maybe because I had seen so many old films on the Late, Late, Show, as a child, about the sophisticated romance of an ocean voyage. I would like to do that again sometime in the future.
When I was 26 I bought a condo in Chicago on the 33rd floor. It was mine all mine. I bought it myself and I was very surprised when I signed my loan at the bank. I signed on the dotted line. Next to the word, Spinster! Yes, I was a Spinster at 26 years old. When I was 52 I bought my first home in Arizona. It was a darling home with more than half of an acre of land. I had my own cactus. I had my own palm trees and a pool with a hot tub and waterfall. I would like to build my own home. This would be another first for me.
What else would I like to do again? This might not be possible because you can’t exactly force the issue or make it happen. I would like to fall in love again. It wouldn’t be for the first time but it would be the first time after the age of 60. I would like to get an engagement ring from some man and I would like to have a big celebration with my friends and family and have a reception and slice a beautiful cake. I would like a band to play for us and to dance with my new love to some good old songs that we would choose so that both of us would know all of the words. I would like to go on a long honeymoon and see things for the first time that I have never seen before. I would like to move into a new home with this man and decorate with both or our tastes in mind. I would like to have dinner parties together with our friends and family. I would like to wake up on a Sunday and read the paper together over coffee and I would like to discuss what we might like to do for our Sunday afternoon as a couple.
There is only one problem.I am not sure that I want to be married to this person? Maybe we could have all the fun without making it legal? So I guess someone would have to ask me to just, love and care for him and for each other, until death us do part, without signing on the dotted line.
Until Next Week…
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