It has been way too long since I have ventured back to our conversation about senior sex So here goes…
Life is so constantly fascinating. I truly am the last person in my immediate world that should be writing on this subject, however, does that stop me, heavens, NO.
Remember this saying? “Those who can, do; those who can’t teach.”
So, just consider me your teacher. While reading up on the subject of sex and seniors, many of the problems are obvious. Age does have an affect on our sexuality, due to illness, medications, and let’s face it; the passing of years makes it often more difficult for men as well as women to perform. Seniors, especially single seniors, have more isolated life-styles. If you are a single woman or man it is necessary to keep active and involved. It can be difficult to join a group or to go to places alone. As a single woman, over sixty we do feel uncomfortable going to events or parties on our own. I do attend parties alone and I occasionally go to the movies alone. Actually, I have to admit, I prefer to go to movies alone. I like to go to the first showing in the middle of the week. Seniors usually get a discount … and I take the discount. I get a box of popcorn with butter and salt to munch on and a real coke and sometimes even a box of candy. There is no one around me to frown at my choices. There are some good things about being single and being alone.
I imagine I don’t have to tell you that one can be alone and still have sex. It isn’t as exciting or fulfilling, however, it is a possibility. I am not a fan of sex where batteries must be included but that is just me, I don’t judge. There isn’t anyone around to tell you that you better hit the gym on Monday morning. No one is there to grab your love handles. No one is grading you on your performance. These are all pluses, however, you are, alone.
Putting yourself out there can be frightening. Is there anything that is more embarrassing than being naked in front of another person? I can’t think of anything as embarrassing or as vulnerable as nakedness? NO there isn’t anything that compares to that situation.
What have I been hearing from my blog followers? These are my mostly faceless, anonymous online men and women. I am happy to announce that sex is still very much on most seniors’ minds. There are two sets of newlyweds in our group. YES! Hooray!!! One man has found real love. I am not sure if this is heading towards marriage or not but he is happy and that is all that matters. Two ladies are dating and still looking for, “Mr. Right.” One lady has sort of lost faith in the possibility of finding a husband. She tells me this but in her heart I think she hasn’t entirely abandoned the prospect of marriage. Strangely enough more men talk to me about their sex lives. Women seem to be shy when talking about sex.
Men ask my opinion. This is so amusing to me because almost everyone has had more experience than moi, however, I am an avid reader. You can really learn a lot from books. (I am smiling while writing this.) So what are men talking about? In the last few months’ one man asked me if it was odd for him to like women’s feet. NO, THAT IS FINE AND NORMAL. Lot’s of men are feet men. There are a number of men who are leg men and some men are lovers of the derriere. Lots of men like women dressed in all kinds of outfits. Well, in various stages of dress or undress. Now most of these men are in there 60’s and 70’s but I have heard from a few younger men. . There are men who have explained about certain parts of a woman’s body that they find fascinating and I will not, shall we say, delve into this area, in any further detail. I trust my readers to have big imaginations.
There are men who have a hard time looking into a woman’s eyes. Personally, I know that this can be a problem. Just saying…. and men, this can be embarrassing while trying to have a normal conversation. So, please try to look in a woman’s eyes, especially when at work! Okay, there are some exceptions. Let me explain. If a woman is wearing a gown that is cut down to her waist, then you have my permission to stare at her chest. If she is wearing a low cut blouse or sweater to work then men, you aren’t allowed to talk about it or touch, but frankly … I think you can take a quick glance. Here is my advice to women. Don’t get so upset when men stare. If you wear short shorts … or low cut blouses or dresses or sweaters and you have every right to do so, but if you dress provocatively, don’t be surprised if men stare at you. Frankly in these cases I am on the side of men.
Yes, I do have a few men that are intrigued by the author of this blog. Well, I blush. I am sure it sparks the imagination of some men since I write a blog with “sex” in the title. Just to let you know. I can’t tell you how tickled pink I am to think that as a 67-year-old woman I can still be in some men’s sexual fantasies. NEVER EVER WOULD I HAVE IMAGINED THAT THIS WOULD BE A POSSIBILITY, as a senior. This fact makes me stand up a little straighter. Me, a sexual object: you can’t see my face, but, I’m smiling, a real big smile.
Until Next Week…
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