If I have learned one thing in my many years of being alive on this earth for over sixty years (I am not going to mention my real age anymore frankly over 60 sounds good to me) is that everything is precarious. Life is precarious. So, what is the best way to handle this situation? One word comes to mind. For me that word is fortitude. It is a noun and the definition according to my cell phone is “courage in pain or adversity.” Another way of saying this is to prepare yourself and do whatever it takes to avoid the pain and or adversity but if you can’t, simply bite the bullet and keep going. Is it easy? No, it is not easy. Life isn’t easy and unless you are very very lucky by the time you are 60 or over, you have had to face some adversity, sometimes years or truckloads of adversity. No one said it was going to be easy. It’s not easy. Some days are easy, some years might be easy but life just isn’t easy. It takes fortitude.
I really don’t like to swear. Swearing is an easy out but sometimes it feels right and good, therefore, (hold your ears because I am going to swear) sometimes LIFE SHITS. Full grade shit and full of all of the terrible things life can throw at you and often all at the same time. Sometimes it takes all of your strength and courage and will to keep going. Sometimes it is good to stand there and face up to the present and sometimes it is necessary to ignore it, avoid it, look the other way, pretend it isn’t there and it isn’t happening. If this gets you through the day or the week or the year that’s okay too. People get through tough and horrible times in different ways. I have done it both ways. I have faced facts, tried my best, bit that bullet, and kept going. Sometimes I have walked through life and ignored the truth and faced it later when I gained my strength back. Sometimes I have cried, screamed, and yelled and that too has worked. The whole idea of fortitude is just to keep going.
It is our duty to life, to our family, to our friends, to our pets, to just keep going. Keep breathing and keep taking one step after the other. Rest, answer the phone, talk to a friend, talk to your pet, watch a funny movie, watch a sad movie and realize that guy in that movie might be worse off than you. It all helps and it gets you through.
Some of my tricks. Crying, crying helps. Scream, screaming helps occasionally too. If you can eat, buy or make your favorite food. For me, it varies, lemon cake, pasta, pizza, meatloaf sandwiches, pickles, chips and dip, hot fruit pie, and ice cream. If you can drink, then drink wine, Champagne, vodka dirty martinis (more than one) with three olives, and Margaritas not too sweet with lots of lime and a salt rim. (I know salt is bad for you especially if you are over 60 and holding water but we are only talking about keeping our spirits up… pun intended.) Don’t I repeat, don’t drink and drive.
Books and movies help me too so just buy some books or go to the library and sit in bed and read for a day. I can’t forget, binge-watching is great too especially if it is a great English series. Paint a picture, take a walk, or throw darts at a picture if it makes you feel better.
Now you are wondering if I am upset or if life has thrown me something I can’t handle. No, it hasn’t I am alive with some aches and pains with my usual problems and worries, but I have lived through some of (I am going to swear again) SHIT in the past and since I just had a birthday, I made it to the glorious age of 70. Okay, I have said it. Yes, I am 70. I think that I look 56 however, today I looked in the mirror and thought I looked 80.
What did it take to get to the computer to write this BLOG POST TODAY? It took FORTITUDE!
Until the next time …