Is There Sex After 60? (Navigating Single Life After 60)

This is a blog that has the word “sex” in the title. I have heard from various people that I hardly ever write about sex in my posts.  There have been a few complaints here and there, mostly from men, and from a woman or two, that I only occasionally touch on the subject of sex. I believe that I have explained my reasons in the past however, here I go again.  Originally, I was going to call the blog  “Sex After Sixty”.  I did realize that readers would definitely expect that a blog with that title could only be about sex.  One of my friends on Facebook asked me the question, “Is there sex after sixty?   I remember laughing to myself and then thinking,”Honestly, I don’t know the answer to that? This is a very good question.”

  What my blog really stands for is the question, “Is there any fun, excitement, new experiences, anything new to learn, possible love, and yes, maybe sex to be had, after the age of sixty?”  Is all of the fun and adventure over? Is it possible to make the last third of our long lives a new, adventurous, realm to walk through (or for the readers in very good condition) or to run through, until we reach the last few steps of our own “long and winding road?”  This is my 53^rdpost; therefore, I am making this a post about sex.  Well, just a little bit about sex.  Actually, I am a very shy person, not in life, only where sex is concerned, so the fact that I write a blog with sex in the title is more than hilarious to anyone who has dated me or known me for many years.  How do I know if there is sex after sixty unfortunately, I don’t know? How could I, since I have lived and worked in my various apartments, working out of an office in my apartment where the only people I talk to are the people behind the counter of the deli section of the grocery store and the nice tellers originally from Senegal, who speak French to me at my bank.   Okay, I have been married and I did date but that was all in the past.  In the last several years I have had three dates and not dates I really care to repeat.  So, my dear readers the question that I am asking had to come from you and your experiences.

Here are some of the stories that I have heard in the last year.  If you are 40 years old or under, you aren’t allowed to read past this sentence.  Stop here.  You might be wondering why I chose the age of 40.   I chose 40 because I imagine some of you reading this over the age of 60 might have children who are 40 or under.  You don’t want your children or grandchildren reading about the sex lives of you and your friends do you??? NO, of course not.

Here are a few things that men have told me about sex in the last year.  One man likes a woman to wear thigh-high black nylons with very high-heeled bright red shoes and nothing else or a lace bra is permitted as well, I believe.  Now this is a fantasy.  I didn’t ask if this is what he insists upon in every relationship or not?

Another man likes to kiss a woman all over her body. He likes her to tell him exactly what she likes him to do and what she doesn’t like him to do.  This sounds very democratic or is it diplomatic?  Or Both? I think she gets to vote.  I like the idea of getting to vote.

Another man considers himself an expert at oral sex. Yes, after years of practice, he is an expert. He is very proud of the fact and in my humble opinion, he has a right to be very proud of himself.  He also says that he takes his time.  I imagine that is a real plus for his sex life, as well.

One man likes a woman to take charge of the entire sexual experience.  In other words, she must make the first move and well, she has to choreograph the entire night… or day or mid-afternoon.  He doesn’t care what time of day this happens.  I am thinking that this man should possibly work for a woman CEO.  Yep, I see a wealthy, bored, and strong woman CEO in this man’s future.  With any luck he will get a promotion and maybe even a raise and if he plays his cards right, a limo to drive him to work.  He lives in a very big city.

There are favorite positions for men as well. A woman on her hands and knees is a favorite, I hear.  Standing up and against a wall.  Standing up with the man standing behind her.  A real favorite with both men and women (I have heard) is the good old number, 69. This seems to be a nice old standard that hasn’t lost its appeal even after all these years.  (Nice to know.)  Men seem to never get tired of a woman on the top, which is sort of surprising to me.  I can’t even type out the one thing everyman has listed as their number one favorite sexual experience.  It revolves around a woman and her mouth and frankly that is as graphic as I am willing to get.  You will just have to figure it out.  Oh yes, a man or two like to take showers with their female partners. Here is a very interesting fact. Not one man, let me say that again, not one man, liked the missionary position.

Frankly, as a woman over 60, I think that the missionary position is the best way to go, men.  You do realize that many of us may have bad knees and all positions may hurt one part of our body or another.   Some of us have a touch of arthritis or we may have bad backs. All right, I occasionally complain about my bad back… only occasionally.

Now here is a very, very, interesting fact. Every single man said that they prefer a woman close to their own age.  This really surprised me until I realized that I am over 60 and these men were confessing their interests to a woman who is over 60.  What are they going to say; that they would prefer a woman in 20’s or 30’s to me?   I very much doubt that.  I can imagine a pretty 30-year-old woman flirting with any of these men over 60 and I believe that the 30 year old woman wouldn’t have a problem getting any one of these fellows to go home with her in a second.  Just saying …… guys, I think I get it.

Sometime in the future I will talk about women’s likes and dislikes.  However, men, women are so, so, different from you men.  Women want to feel secure, loved and appreciated, that is really, really, important to them.  We don’t want to be criticized.  We are way, way, way, more sensitive, than men about our looks, our bodies, our wrinkles, our weight.   Just remember that when you try to turn a date or a friendship into romance; think before you say something that might stop the romance dead in its tracks.   (Just some friendly womanly advice for your future potential romances.)

I forgot something.  I did ask women if they ever faked while lovemaking.  I’m very, very, sorry guys. So far, every woman who I have asked about this subject answered, yes.  I know that there might be a woman out there in the world that hasn’t ever faked.  If you are out there please send me a note and I will put you on the right side of the list, as a very honest woman.

Holy Cow, I have been blushing while writing this entire post. You might be wondering where the Rock ‘n’ Roll came in to this piece.  I was listening to some rock ‘n’ roll while I was writing this.   ONE YEAR AND COUNTING! THANK YOU FOR READING MY BLOG!!  I’m going to buy some Champagne and make a toast to all of you, CHEERS!  This is my 53^rdpost.

Until Next Week …