It was inevitable, wasn’t it? If one keeps living one must keep asking questions. Perhaps sex is the biggest question of all. Is there such a thing as sex after 70?
I imagine for most men it is still a possibility. There are so few men out there in our world of more women than men. Add a house and a nice car and a generous guy, married or single and chances are if you are interested in sex, it won’t be too hard to find. There are women, young, middle-aged, and old, still out there and looking for a partner. If you are a man and successful and rich, well, let’s face it; you have to beat the women off with sticks. If you are in decent condition and nice looking, I imagine you have yourself a virtual cornucopia of young, beautiful models and actresses at your beck and call. Lucky you.
Now let’s talk about women. If you are 70 or above, the pickings are slim to nonexistent, to say the least. First, there are fewer men, there are gay men who can be wonderful friends. In my life, I have been very lucky to have three of my dearest best friends who happen to be gay, however, this takes sex out of the picture. Next, you have men, happily married men. These men sometimes act like they are happily married and consider themselves happily married but occasionally they have been known to stray from their happily married home. When they do stray, they usually aren’t running after women in their 70s. I know it happens, but not often.
So, what would be one’s options as a woman over 70? There is only a trickle of men from which to choose. There are your confirmed bachelors. The problem with confirmed bachelors is just that …. they are confirmed, which means they like their life just how it is. If you enter it, you are disturbing the peace. A woman might change things. Confirmed bachelors do not like change. They like a place for everything and everything in its place, period. Sometimes they aren’t married or living with someone because they watch every penny. If a woman enters the picture, they might have to pay for her.
As for widowers, there are some widowers who were so in love with the wife they lost that you might not ever measure up to her. I totally understand. I admire a love like that. If the widower is looking for a partner, he might want a younger version of his wife. I guess it could be me but the widower would have to be 90 for me to be a younger version.
Last but certainly not least we have the divorced man. This too can be a challenge. Why did they get divorced? Maybe you should hear both sides of the story. Who left whom and why? Was he a womanizer, was alcohol involved, drugs, gambling? Things you ought to know before falling in love. Then there is the complication of children and grandchildren. Would they resent you? Likely, the divorced man would also be looking for a younger woman so you probably don’t have to worry about any of these issues.
This leads me back to my original question. There probably isn’t much sexual excitement going on in a woman’s life when turning 70. So, I am now sadly considering getting myself that inevitable rocking chair and knitting myself a shawl, however, if you hear of any good gossip about a woman, we might know who might be having an affair or better yet finding the love of her life after hitting 70, PLEASE let me know. That would really cheer me up.
Until Next Time…
Is There Sex After 60? (Navigating Single Life After 60) 