Last September I moved to Denver leaving my husband and children and pets behind. This isn’t as daring and selfish as it sounds. My husband and I have been mentally separated, (well let’s just say since he decided to leave one New Year’s Eve to go to a party by himself and he arrived back to our home three days later without an explanation). While living together off and on for the last 12 years mostly for financial reasons as well as keeping the family together for the benefit of the children. My two children are no longer boys (except in my mind) the oldest is 29 and my baby is 21 and a junior in college. This son has an apartment with a roommate in another city, in Colorado. The oldest son is living (for the time being) with my husband in another city, also in Colorado. The pets (two cats and a dog) have decided that they love living with my husband and son … so for the good of our pets mental stability (they hate change) we have all decided that this will continue for the foreseeable future. So, now for the first time in 35 years, I am living completely alone. No husband, no children, no pets and right at this moment not even one living plant. I do have one lovely small faux palm in a glass vase with clear plastic faux water. I am for the present only responsible for myself! The first day I awoke looking out on Denver 16 floors above the city my mind went back to my life as a single, young, free, woman in my 20’s in Chicago. I sat up in bed and opened … actually opened, a novel next to my bed, fluffed my pillow and started to read. I can’t remember when I have been able to do that, at least since my boys were born. In my first two weeks in my new apartment I finished two novels. I bought mostly new furniture … four pieces of cream-colored leather, a chair and an ottoman, a loveseat a lounge chair, a new modern silver metal dinning table with modern silver chairs. Paintings cover the walls …. with several of my sculptures placed just where I chose to place them. My apartment is clean and neat a place for everything… and everything in it’s place. Bought new dishes and glasses and everything sparkles and everything matches… like before … like before, I was married, like when I was single and young. Only one thing is different … I’m not young. It is almost as if all those years … those years where everyone and everything was more important ……… than me, didn’t exist. I have so many mixed emotions. I no longer have to make dinner or even eat dinner if I don’t want to. I can work until 3 A.M. I often go to bed at 4 A.M. The other night I had Vinegar Potato Chips and two Martinis for dinner. One day last week I worked all day on my computer and forgot to eat or drink anything until I looked at the clock and tried to remember what I had eaten that day… I realized that I had forgotten to eat.
Am I happy? I don’t know exactly how I feel? I know one thing. I don’t want my future to be boring or less important than my children’s future. I don’t just want to be a grandmother or a mother-in-law that waits for an invitation. I want to make the last part of my life as important as the beginning of my life. I know it will be different but I don’t want to be a second thought. I don’t want to be sitting and knitting … I love children and yes, I would love to be a grandmother some day if that happens and I actually do know how to knit. I have often forced scarves and blankets on poor unsuspecting friends and family. Knitting has its place, however, I don’t want knitting a scarf for someone, to be my whole life. I want this rest of my life to be interesting, maybe exciting, maybe fulfilling, maybe learning new things … maybe meeting new people, maybe a little scary.
Is There Sex After Sixty?
Is there life after 60? Let’s find out? Who knows? I am going to explore these things and my life as a new 0ver 60 Single Woman. I would love to hear your experiences, your feelings, about life as an adult not just as an old adult. Let’s explore this life…. living hopefully into our 70’s and 80’s and maybe beyond. I am hoping for new adventures and lots of fun and flowers and Champagne!!! Love again? Who knows? maybe or maybe not? I want my life to be important to my last breath. So write me and let me know your thoughts, wishes and dreams let’s explore the good and bad of this new life. This Blog is for anyone who has reached the age of 60 or those that hope to. I will try to write once a week. Until then.
11 thoughts on “Is There Sex After Sixty? Navigating The Single Life.”
Debra
I turned 65, July 3o, 2017. Married since ‘89. Sex…I’ve wished for since ‘91…he quit. Not me! But have had none…oh, he tried once. Now, come on. I have been beautiful, sexy, funny and a money maker. I want to be taken care of…..THIS COULD BE A WILD, NON STOP BOOK. So I’ve been told dozens of times!! Yes, there’s sex after sixty. When do I get it?????
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istheresexaftersixty
This is a good question. You only had sex for two years? Is he much older than you or is he ill? I turned 65 on March 3rd. I have had other married men ask for sex and he was young and handsome… actually two of them … and a few others but I didn’t go through with it. I felt guilty. I wouldn’t feel guilty at this point. My kids are grown and my husband lives in another city. I want to explore what is happening to us after 60. I want to write a book in the future too. Let’s keep in touch … this is interesting. Just wondering … do you still love your husband? You don’t have to answer if you don’t want to. I understand.
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larry nasworthy
it’s everywhere you just have to seek. i have always loved women and respect their needs i have always said when i get old in the hips i will get young in the lips and now i am 60 i still feel the same way keep being yourself and you can do whatever you want
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larry nasworthy
others have the same needs to be sexually satisfied and i know the frustrations that can arise too but i still wont give up on sex because i am 65 or at any age as long as i can find women that still desire men !
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Craig H Hullinger
Well written. Have fun in your new life and new blog.
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istheresexaftersixty
Thank you. I hope to keep it interesting. Hope you keep reading and if you enjoy it please mention it to anyone that might find it relevant. Also thank you for your input.
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Hej Ignacio
The feeling of solitude gives lightness and invigoration over the stigmatized reality of being old. I just love when people realized that they aren’t chain with society’s demand of being a role model. You are good on your own and free to do whatever that will make you happy as long no one will be aggravated by it. 🙂 I always believe that life is short and and every waking moment is a gift from God ❤ Cheers for your first post 😉
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istheresexaftersixty
Thank you… hope to keep it interesting.
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Salvatore La Barbera
Wow Sue ,you sure have had an interesting life so far!!! I hope you find your happiness on your exciting journey. My life is kind of the same way except I was a paid ball player and traveled for 14 years on the circuit. I will stay in touch and maybe tell you my story but for now I was lucky to find my true love at 56 yrs. old right next door in Indiana when I had traveled all around looking for her. Have fun and stay safe, as an ex police canine officer I hope you have a personal protection unit of some type with you at all times so that you can go and be what ever your heart desires. Salvatore. Class of 73.
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Thomas Schildhouse
I am 70, and I have intimacy, you have to be creative sometimes, at least twice a month. I would never give up sex.
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istheresexaftersixty
That is wonderful … I have something to look forward to in the future. 🙂
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